For some reason, I’m crossing paths with a lot of men who are desperate for attention from women. The way they walk, talk think and act screams desperation and nothing turns people off more, especially women, than a man who is desperate.
Why? Well it screams low self esteem and no one wants to be involved with someone who has low self esteem. They’re hard work and at the end of the day, it’s not a woman’s job to fix you. They’re not your mother.
It makes men toxic because it takes over and they display toxic behaviour. I see all kinds of toxic behaviour in men from co-dependency issues to blaming people for everything and carrying that trauma into the next relationship without healing first.
Now it’s not the end of the world if that’s you, there are plenty of ways you can build self esteem but that’s a post for another day. In a nutshell it means doing things worthy of esteem, suffering, giving up the good for the great and playing the long game.
Being committed to what you said you wer going to do yesterday.
Cahsing women repels them in the same way chasing money (with the wrong intentions) will repel it. If you’re trying to scam people or you want to build a business as fast as possible and look the part because you want the Instagram lifestyle of laptops and exotic beaches, the more you’re going to come crashing down. It’s not sustainable, there was no foundation and when you experience hardship or temnporary defeat, you’ll crumble. You’re not disciplined and you don’t know how to persevere. You haven’t built slow, steady and well.
It’s kind of the same thing with relationships.
If you haven’t done the inner work to grow and heal, you’re only going to repel women. Nothing turns women off more than a man who can’t take ownership and responsibility. If you haven’t set a solid foundation on which to build a relationship on, sooner or later it will come crashing down.
It’s even worse if two people who have no idea who they are, what they want or where they’re going come together. It’s a disaster waiting to happen. I’ve seen it many times in recent years but the strange thing is, those same people come to you for advice, you tell them where they’re going wrong because you’ve experienced it yourself and they completely ignore what you said and go back to the toxic relationship or go back to chasing women because they can’t stand being alone.
That’s the definition of deeply unconscious. They’re not even in control of their own thoughts and actions, it’s being ruled by their penis or lack of self esteem and as I said earlier, a lack of self esteem makes men toxic (if the behaviour is not recognised and they don’t work on fixing it).
Let me tell you how you attract the woman of your dreams.
Be mission driven.
Women are helplessly attracted to a man with a purpose, passion, and mission. They’re hardwired to be attracted to mission driven masculine men. Forget height, that’s an excuse men with low self esteem use. It’s not about height at all, it’s about stature. Importance or reputation gained by ability or achievement. Never forget this. I stand at 170cms and I have rarely dated women shorter than me.
As much as they might argue against this and disagree, women are more attracted to a man who doesn't make her the primary thing in his life, but is still loyal to her and cares about her.
A strong, loyal, assertive masculine loving leader, provider and protector who has a mission. A man who knows who he is, what he wants and where he is going.
Forget chasing women, be a magnetic mission driven, ambitious masculine man who is guided by his own code of living and watch what happens. You’ll have women falling over themselves to get to know you. You’re interesting and even mysterious.
As I have been saying from the beginning of the Outlaws and Insiders Digital Newsletter.
Find out who you are, what you want and where you’re going and you’ll attract someone with similar hopes, dreams, goals and ambitions.
When you do you’ll stop competing with the other ninety nine percent who don’t have a clue about who they are, what they want or where they’re going.
I hope you find this of vaulue, my brothers!
Keep winning!